Thursday, December 17, 2015

An Important and (Sadly) Controversial Visit

Naftali Bennett’s recent visit to the Solomon Schechter School of Manhattan was eagerly anticipated by the entire school community.  After considerable planning, Bennett, who serves as Israel’s Minister of Education and Minister of Diaspora Affairs, spent several hours at the Schechter School on December 1. 


Minister Bennett visiting the Solomon Schechter School of Manhattan on December 1, 2015

I received a full description of the planning and the actual event from my wife Deanna, who is the school's coordinator of learning support and serves on its Educational Leadership Team.  Among other things, Bennett had conversations with middle school students and adults and shared stories and songs with the entire school.  A video showed him sitting on the floor with the children and singing along to some popular Israeli tunes.

That same day, along with the video, Bennett tweeted the following message, in Hebrew, to his approximately forty thousand followers:  “Meeting with the students of the wonderful Conservative Solomon Schechter School in New York.  Such love of Israel.  Such love of Judaism.”

Naftali Bennett, who personally identifies as Modern Orthodox, had unabashedly revealed the school’s affiliation and indicated how impressed he was.  Deanna informed me that the students and parents were likewise impressed by Bennett’s down to earth manner and ability to engage.  So far, so good.

Subsequently, however, several people castigated Bennett for having visited the school.  Among his critics was Chief Ashkenazi Rabbi David Lau.  According to Israeli newspaper Haaretz, Rabbi Lau said in a radio interview,  “you should not go to a place that explicitly belongs to groups that you know don’t respect klal yisrael (the Community of Israel).” 

In response, Naftali Bennett’s office issued the following statement: “Minister Bennett believes that public leaders in Israel need to bring Jews closer and not alienate them, and he views comments that alienate rather than bringing people closer with major concern.”

I especially appreciated a letter written to Rabbi Lau by Daniel Labovitz, former president of the school, in which he wrote, “You insulted me directly and personally, Rabbi, when you said that this school, of which I was president for four years, and which has educated both of my sons to love Israel, explicitly belongs to groups that you know don’t respect klal yisrael.  You insulted me directly and personally, Rabbi, when you said that my son, who sat next to Minister Bennett on the floor and sang, "yachad, lev el lev niftach b'tikva,” (“together, we will open each other’s hearts with hope”) doesn't respect klal yisrael.  You insult me personally because two of the graduates of Schechter Manhattan are currently serving in the IDF, defending klal yisrael, something that most of the Haredi men their age aren't doing.”

On Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we sing the prayer, hayom t’gadleinu.  Today, make us larger.  On Hanukkah, we follow the opinion of Hillel by increasing the number of candles we light each night so that we can increase holiness in the world.  How sad that Rabbi Lau chooses to reduce rather than enlarge, to be incapable of seeing an abundance of holiness even when it is coursing through the hearts and souls of children and the adults who love and guide them.

Fortunately Naftali Bennett knows better, and so do we.  At the Solomon Schechter School of Manhattan, at Temple Israel of Great Neck and at numerous other places across the globe, we understand that there are multiple paths toward embracing the beauty of our heritage and enhancing the glory of klal yisrael. 

Originally written for the Temple Israel Voice, December 18, 2015 edition


Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Where Everyone is Really Welcome: a Vision for Temple Israel of Great Neck

Thousands of years ago, our ancestors told a story about a man who was afraid to reunite with his brother after a rift that had occurred several decades prior.  He took a variety of precautions, sent his family along ahead of himself, and was left all alone.  Another man appeared and struggled with him until dawn. 


 Jacob Wrestling with the Angel by Marc Chagall

These moments in the life of our patriarch Jacob, moments of isolation and struggle, are not hidden from us.  They were described and recorded and, not only that, they became essential to his identity and to his new name, Israel, ישראל Yisra’el.

Which became the name for the nation, ישראל yisra’el, who are known as בני ישראל b’nei yisra’el, the children of Israel.

I have some questions for all of us on this beautiful Shabbat morning of Thanksgiving weekend. 

Given that our ancestor was Yisrael – who struggled, prevailed, complained and prevailed again.  And that our people bear his name.  And that our synagogue bears his name.  

Why do we exert so much energy pretending that everything is just fine when it’s not?  

Why are our synagogues, this one included, places where by and large people feel uncomfortable sharing anything beyond, “I’m fine, thank you”?

Why is it that in 2015, people whose life circumstances are other than happily married with high-achieving children sometimes wonder if they are fully welcomed here and in other synagogues?

How did the children of Israel – tormented dreamer and struggler, Israel who has good days and lousy days, Israel who sometimes supports his children and sometimes messes up spectacularly with regard to his children, Israel whose roller-coaster of a life is captured in unflinching detail in our Torah, Israel who is asked at the end of his life how he’s doing and says, “badly, thank you for asking” – how did the children of Israel come to believe that they are being measured, explicitly or implicitly, against certain narrow expectations and that they have to come into God’s house appearing to have it all together even when they don’t?

It’s exhausting.  It’s debilitating.  And the craziest part of it is that it isn’t even authentic to our tradition.